December 16, 2021
ESPECIALLY during this time of year, the practice of setting healthy boundaries is crucial. Not only setting boundaries for yourself, but for your family and as an example for young ones watching, to create healthy habits and behaviors and ensure we have energy and excitement to last through the entire holiday season or generally that is sustainable.
Referencing our blog post on burn-out, if you become exhausted from your environment, whether it’s work, personal life, social life, or the time of year, if you take a break (i.e. vacation, self-care time, or spa day) and then go right back to the busyness you aren’t actually addressing or fixing the problem. So step one, circle back to that post and create a space and environment that doesn’t bring you to the edge of burn-out.
HOWEVER, during the holiday season that is not always possible. There are work parties, (even virtual can take a toll), friend get togethers, celebrations, kids concerts, cookie baking, shopping, and the list goes on and on. YES, many of the items are fun and wonderful, but after a week’s worth of obligations it can be a lot for even the most extroverted person.
Additionally, when you are at work, you’re at work, it is not required to text or call anyone back immediately. Schedule when you will respond, so you don’t have something ‘hanging’ over you.
Here is a line to use when you’re open to rescheduling.
Being an EAP, Employee Assistance is our focus, here is a list of ways to lay down those boundaries in an office or professional setting. Which to be clear, is just as important if not more so as our personal boundary setting exercise.
Again, we realize that this time of year is hard. We all want to do it all and mostly find it fun. If you start with your priority list, what is most important to accomplish, with your friends, family, loved ones or yourself, you will win out. (P.S. Those are your values, hold ‘em high!) Set time for those values and explaining to others that you are working to make time for all priority items, those that will accept and understand truly care. What a great way to start the new year -with fresh healthy habits! Even family members (or people at work) who nag at us about our priorities -now is the time to start creating space and build your ‘imaginary snow-fort’ to ensure you are filling your own cup with protective mental health activities that will serve you this holiday season and into the new year!